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I hate being mean.

I just had to cut off 2 friends from their phones. We were on a family plan and after asking them repeatedly for some money to help with the bill/cut down on usage and getting no help in either area, I had to cut off their phones. I cannot afford 2! $600 phone bills in two months!!!
If there were extenuating circumstances then they could have made me aware of them. They had every chance to call, email, etc...to show they were willing to help.
At the 2nd $600 bill, I'm sorry, I don't care who you are, that is it. I have been carrying a $150+ bill for them for almost a year. Obviously, they did not want to take responsibility in this situation. I was not asking much. I was even willing to let the first $600 one go as long as they sent me something towards the bill... $5, 10, 20...I did not care as long as it was something. They chose not to. Nor did they call and tell me what is/was going on in their life that might cause them to not send a $5 bill.
I understand I have probably burned my bridges with those friends. This makes me very sad, but I cannot put up with stress like this for multiple months in a row. My budget is tight too. I was relying on that $400 (600-normal bill) to help pay other bills/expenses.

I know I am going to regret this. But I have to do what is necessary for my sanity.

Dana and Jen, if you are reading this, I am sorry, but after everything, I could not give another chance. I cannot afford to be overdrawn again. I wish I could stay friends, but I do understand if you choose to hate me because of this. If you want, you can reactivate the lines - contact AT&T for details.

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( 10 Tummy Rubs — Pet Angela? )
rwdrake
Feb. 19th, 2008 05:09 am (UTC)
Buck up Girl!
I am so sorry you're in a rough place. You have to do what you have to do and at least from my place (which I hope resembles your corner), that means making sure you make ends meat so you can eat.

If they are your friends, they'll understand, get you your money and things can move on.

I hope things work for you.
jennielf
Feb. 21st, 2008 02:10 am (UTC)
Re: Buck up Girl!
Thanks Robert.
I still want to trust people...but...sadly, i think I have learned the main lesson.
rwdrake
Feb. 22nd, 2008 02:40 am (UTC)
Re: Trusting People
Hello,

I hope you are feeling the love! People here are showing it and you deserve it.

As for trusting people, everytime you trust someone for the first time, it's an obvious leap of faith.

It's essentially saying "I don't know if you're going to hurt me or not, but I am going to bet you're not."

What we don't realize (or at least I forget) is that each subsequent act is also in large part an article of faith, for each time we trust someone anew, even if previous expereicnes with them have been good, they still have the chance to make things go in a way we'd not like.

Eventually nearly everyone lets you down on something. We make mistakes. The issues then become ones of intent and callousness. Those are the people who really hurt you.
cathalexp
Feb. 19th, 2008 03:31 pm (UTC)
Sorry that you had to be in that situation. But i think if they are not making an effort to meet you even 25% of the way, then you did the right thing.
jennielf
Feb. 21st, 2008 02:10 am (UTC)
:) I love you.
Thanks.
darkstorm_
Feb. 19th, 2008 05:59 pm (UTC)
Anyone who would abuse your generosity in that way is not your friend... an acquaintance maybe, but certainly not a friend. I would go so far as to say you should take them to small claims court to recover what they should have been paying you all along. "Friends" like that you don't need.
jennielf
Feb. 21st, 2008 02:13 am (UTC)
Gosh. Thanks.
Sadly, I never expect to see that money. Taking them to small claims court, even if i wanted to would be fruitless. They barely live paycheck to paycheck as it is.
Thanks tho. I just wish I could hear and understand their side of the story.
darkstorm_
Feb. 21st, 2008 04:15 am (UTC)
Where's Judge Judy when you need her? LOL Any judgments on those types of shows are paid by the producers out of the losers' payment for appearing on the show.

The fact that they won't even talk to you about it shows just how good of "friends" they really are. Don't sweat it. Drop 'em and move on. You weren't "mean". You were practical and had every right to be.
bellaland
Feb. 21st, 2008 01:55 am (UTC)
read the response to you...
If you did too, then I present this for your amusement. It reads better if you replace the word 'mule' with 'smutters' *smiles*

and...btw...having supported others before...I completely understand your position - and it takes a lot of chutzpah to take advantage of someone that way - and even more to be upset when your abused free meal ticket is punched. I am sorry hon : (

mule [mjuːl] noun

a loose, backless slipper

Arabic: خُف، شِبْشِب
Chinese (Simplified): 女式拖鞋
Chinese (Traditional): 女式拖鞋
Czech: pantofel
Danish: smutters
Dutch: muil
Estonian: suss
Finnish: tohveli
French: mule
German: der Pantoffel
Greek: παντόφλα
Hungarian: papucs
Icelandic: töfflur
Indonesian: sandal

Japanese: スリッパ
Korean: 슬리퍼
Latvian: rītakurpe
Lithuanian: šlepetė, šliurė
Norwegian: tøffel
Polish: pantofel
Portuguese (Brazil): chinelo
Portuguese (Portugal): chinelo
Romanian: pa­puc de casă
Russian: шлёпанец
Slovak: papuča
Slovenian: ženska copata
Swedish: sandalett, toffel
Turkish: arkalıksız terlik
jennielf
Feb. 21st, 2008 02:08 am (UTC)
Re: read the response to you...
Hmmm. Not sure of what response you are referring too. Wish I could read it. :(
Trust me, I did not want to, but I felt I had no choice. I was quite clear last month with the first one. It happened again. There was no communication within that month.

All of this caused a cascading effect on my life. Several bills were late, Insurance was not paid, etc. No, it probably was not as a big an inconvienince for me as it was for them, but they also had the resposibility to pay a portion of the bill.

Regardless, what is done is done. I hate loosing friends and that seems like the only thing that has happened since I moved to Florida.

Thanks for understanding.
( 10 Tummy Rubs — Pet Angela? )