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so, general thoughts on life...

Yeah, i know, how original, but bear with me...

So I have been reading and thinking a lot lately on the matter of life, relationships, etc... I have also been watching the last couple of discs of season 1 B&B. Damn it. I love that show, but it always makes me cry. Also, the show/anime Gunslinger Girl (which is just brilliant!) Anyway...

In several of the books I am reading and particularly on the last couple of Eps, the idea of Happiness and living a Happy Lifetm is a major theme. What does a Happy Life consist of? Is Love worth it? Can a professional life and personal life be the one and the same? Different? (Ok, well, obviously, we all don't have the huge secret of Vincent and his world in our lives, but) do aspects of one side of life need to be sacrificed so the other can occur/flourish?

Obviously this was much more of a conflict for professional women in the 70's and 80's, which was one the issues worked at in the show, but still, why do I still feel like most women today have that problem? Do men still have this issue? Or are they taught from childhood through cultural osmosis how to deal with it and we as women are still trying to figure it all out.

Vincent and Catherine would gladly give up their lives for each other, the girls in GG would gladly die for their handlers, I would gladly die for my friends. This is different from giving up my happiness and acceptance of myself for a person or a job.

Ultimately, I guess my main point is this: Is Love worth sacrificing aspects of self for?

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rwdrake
Jun. 25th, 2007 03:15 pm (UTC)
What is B&B
What show is that?
jennielf
Jun. 25th, 2007 05:37 pm (UTC)
Re: What is B&B
The TV show from the late 80's - Beauty and the Beast.
Vincent is a man/beast mutant taht lives in a world under New York City and he finds Catherine after she has been mugged and assaulted one night and nurses her back to health, and they develop a chaste loving relationship.
Its very tragic and beautiful (and occasionally a tad melodramatic) - and epitomizes the kind of romantic love I wish i could have. (yeah, im twisted, my romantic heroes are Erik/The Phantom of the Opera from PotO and Vincent from B&B...)
*sigh*
rwdrake
Jun. 25th, 2007 03:28 pm (UTC)
Balancing Life and Love
"Is Love worth sacrificing aspects of self for?"

You know, I warn people I date all the time that at any moment, my bosses will call and I'll need to deal with it. ANY moment. I've received 7 AM calls and 2 AM calls. It comes with the territory.

I tell them from Day one that it's going to happen and it's part of my deal. They either accept this or we don't date.

I think thats part of making real love work. You have to love the actual person you're dating, flaws and all. If you only love what you can see them becoming, the Canyon of disappointment into which you are bound to fall is your own problem.

Among the elements I admire about you is that you are completely WYSIWYG. You're you, take it or leave it. I've taken from that.

When you date someone, you just have to let them know. If it's right, they'll ride with it.

The point is that you get to decide who you are and what choices you're willing to make.

jennielf
Jun. 25th, 2007 05:46 pm (UTC)
Re: Balancing Life and Love
I know this mentally, but there is still that part of me that dreams of that all encompassing romantic love at first sight thing. (please see above)
That being said, I also know that real love and a real relationship is work. It is not easy - I had a very good model to base that upon, fortunately, my parents. I know they have a very loving relationship, but I also know that they work well together as a couple. One person's flaws are complimented by the other person's strengths. I would love to find someone like that. However, I also don't date. I don't have a lot of friends, etc. I am the type of person that either has a strong personal life and dedicates herself to her friends and her family or a I have a strong professional life (me now) and I have very little ability to work on my personal and social life. Also, with me one tends to distract from the other, The more of a personal life i have the more my work life suffers in one way or another.
I am trying to balance, but it is not easy for me...

Honestly, while I pine for a "relationship" - I just can't shake the feeling that it would be a bad go. I have pretty much resigned myself to crazy cat geek spinsterhood. :)
But ya never know - My mom and dad met when she was 35...So, we will see. :)
jennielf
Jun. 25th, 2007 05:48 pm (UTC)
Re: Balancing Life and Love
I just reread that - You admire me?? (or at least elements of myself?) Wow. um, thanks... :)
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